Separation: From Agony to Endurance

Everything that happens affects our psyche. We cannot be stoics that we undergo joys and sorrows with an objective approach. When we are so involved in our relationships, we tend to make our inner self more vulnerable.  The problem that a sensitive person faces is that he/she can not remain aloof from the surroundings- personal or public. The notion of separation is very complex. It may involve people, things, ideas or feelings; the agony and torment of separation kills the inner spirit of a person. Succumbing to grief results in distress where nothing seems to come as a relief. We have to remember that the anguish has to be overcome with a strong mind and a firm belief in fortitude. It is our mind that is the abode of positive and negative vibes. If we are attached so much to a person, it shows that either we see our own reflection in him/her or we have imposed our imagination of representing so much goodness in him/her. Both ways, we are ruining our peace. We are becoming possessed of being always in love with the person loved and unable to see life beyond. It is good to be in love but it is useless to carry the baggage of separation along ignoring the blessings of the present. Life is about moving ahead and not assessing the good and bad of the deeds of the past. 

                                        

All of us are on a voyage of discovery. Nothing is to explore outside. All treasure resides within. We are so distracted on our way that we forget to enjoy ourselves. The company of a few or many people that we have can be enjoyed. Even one's own company can be enjoyed if others are busy. We tend to forget that love and friendship can  neither be taken for granted nor be begged. Such feelings are felt and our existence is the most blessed grace given by the Almighty. When we feel good about someone, it is as natural as breathing but it should not be an obsession or a mania. How nice it would be if all of us become a normal human beings! But it is impossible to have uniformity. All of us are unequal but at the same time, we all are unique in our own ways. We should relish that.

Physical separation brings torture to one's mind and soul. Death separates our loved ones making us feel more helpless. When my beloved uncle (my Shami Chacha) left me a few years ago, my belief in happy life was uprooted altogether and I was all engrossed in his musings and the time spent together. Gradually I realized that I am violating the very principles that he taught me through out his life. "Life is very precious, putt; make the best of every moment. You can not please everyone; ensure you don't hurt anyone. Keep on working hard; you will be acknowledged one day. Don't mourn over lost things and people; it does no good. Make yourself busy in whatever field you are good." All these reminders helped me a lot to get out of the abyss of separation that I had thought I would never come out. Now with each passing day, he is in my mind but not as a mere memory but a strong blessing of life that motivates me to work for the cause of my family and society. 

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